Loving Him is Red…

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I don’t think my fiancé will be too impressed with the Taylor Swift reference, but I’ve been on a Swift kick lately, so he shouldn’t be surprised. The reason that matters is because I want to dedicate this post to my fiancé – my soon-to-be husband – and everything I could ever want in life.

Speaking of Taylor Swift… my very first memories with Joe go back to one of her songs, Mine, which was very popular at the time we met back in 2010. The more we hung out, the more that song made me giddy. Because even though we weren’t dating at the time, I had this sense of comfort, joy and an indescribable feeling every time I was with him. And I felt so incredibly lucky to be spending time with him. I somehow knew he was mine, and I was his. And just like that, loving him was red. And is still…

Fast forward 6.5 years later, and here we are, getting married TOMORROW! And I am truly the luckiest. Joe, you have been there for me through every up and down, encouraged me to be my best but most of all – loved me unconditionally through it all.

I honestly never thought I could feel this way. I honestly didn’t know love could feel so right and so strong and so passionate – to be comforted in the arms of the person you love the most in this world and know that no matter how low you get, you have one true soulmate to turn to. Every moment is exciting and new… so full of life.  Joe – you are by far the most considerate, passionate, hard-working and truly genuine person I know. I don’t know what I did to deserve you but I thank God every day for being able to be on this path with you.

You truly are the best thing that’s ever been mine… and I will continue to love you forever, in this life and the next. I couldn’t be more blessed to have you in my life and I’m looking forward to our forever.

Love you Mr. Handsome – more than you will ever know – for now, and forever – your Rachies


One Month…


You must be my once in a lifetime…

We are officially one month out from our wedding day. It’s surreal. We’ve been planning this moment since our engagement in January of 2016. And let’s be honest – I’ve been planning this day my whole life…

Right now, I have a lot of emotions and minimal brain space. It’s crazy that no matter how much people tell you, until you go through it yourself, the last two months before the wedding get chaotic – and the chaos won’t stop until every item related to your wedding (including thank yous) is complete. It’s a messy, wonderful type of chaos though. And while all those tiny details seem to matter, in the end, I’ve been looking to what it means: our marriage and our forever with each other. As long as my dear friends and family can be there with us to witness and celebrate this day, then truly nothing else matters.


My emotions:

A lot of highs – a lot of adrealine pushing me through the final details. Pushing me through every last workout. Pushing me to make more decisions and remember to make final payments. Pushing me through when I feel burnt out.

Some sadness too – I recently had a moment where I realized I will only be “Rachel Trampel” for a few more weeks. Rachel Trampel has been my identity for the past 29 years… and it’s a bit sad to know I’m letting go of something that’s been part of me for so long. Don’t get me wrong, I am beyond excited to take my fiancé’s last name – but with most things in life, it is always hard to let go.I’m still debating if I want to move Trampel to be a part of my middle name or if I simply want a small tatoo as a reminder… any suggestions for me or advice on how to cope with your name transition?! Again, I will be clear that even though I’ve been up, down and all around the last name debate throughout my life, I want to and am ready to be Rachel Sobieck!

And the stress – This has come and gone in waves. I’m feeling better because I FINALLY feel like I see the light at the end of the tunnel. Some things will come up and I’ll have zero control over them – and I am OKAY with that. There are many things that won’t be as I perfectly pictured them – but it will still be wonderful. I think this will continue to come and go until a few days before, where I’ll put my hands and say – it is what it is – and just happniess.

A whole lot of love – my heart feels so full – through all of the help I’ve received, through all of the friends and family who are excited to partake in the day – and of course, thinking about walking down the aisle, arm in arm with my father – looking ahead to my fiancé, my soon-to-be husband and how I will feel in that moment. How I will feel when we see each other for the first time for our “first look”. What it will be like to be on the dance floor together as husband and wife dancing in front of our people. Love. SO much love. It’s undescribable…


This moment, which for awhile seemed so far away, is so close – and I can’t wait to cherish every single second of it. To my fiance Joe… I love you, I cannot wait to marry you in one month, I cannot wait to be your wife!


How to Include the Mother of the Groom in Wedding Planning

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There is no denying that planning a wedding can be a stressful experience. Not only do you want to make sure that everything is perfect, but it can be challenging because there are so many people involved. How do you choose your bridesmaids? What responsibilities should they have? Who is going to sit where? And, of course, how do you incorporate your partner’s mom? The latter can be the most challenging. You want to make her feel included, but with everything going on, it can be difficult. To strike the right balance, consider the following suggestions: