There is no denying that planning a wedding can be a stressful experience. Not only do you want to make sure that everything is perfect, but it can be challenging because there are so many people involved. How do you choose your bridesmaids? What responsibilities should they have? Who is going to sit where? And, of course, how do you incorporate your partner’s mom? The latter can be the most challenging. You want to make her feel included, but with everything going on, it can be difficult. To strike the right balance, consider the following suggestions:
- Let her know the non-negotiable aspects of your wedding – First of all, let’s deal with the most important aspect of them all; letting your mother-in-law-to-be know the elements of your wedding that are not negotiable. In fact, this is true for your own mother as well! It is your day – so you have to be truthful from the get go with both your mother and future mother-in-law. Don’t be afraid to tell them what you want complete control over. They will appreciate the heads-up!
- Put her in charge of something – Choose something that they can really help you with, for example, helping go through all of the options or give her a few suggestions and let her make the final decision. For example, you could choose three different photographers, and allow her to make the final choice.
- Include her in buying the wedding rings – Of course, you and your partner don’t need to travel arm-in-arm to a jeweler to include her in the process! What we mean is, get her thoughts during your initial search. Websites such as http://weddingbandsforboth.com/ sell unique and stylish wedding rings online. Ask her to browse such a website and give her thoughts on the different styles so that you can have her opinion before you go shopping. She will love the fact that you have incorporated her into something that impacts both of you.
- Ask her to come along with you to something wedding-related – Why not ask her to come to a cake testing or a wedding dress fitting with you? This is both a simple task, yet extremely meaningful to spend this time together!
Give her specific tasks – You can also always ask her to carry out a few tasks for you. For example, ask if she could call into a shop in person to check something out, or see if she will pick something up for the wedding or make a few phone calls. Websites like http://www.thebalance.com/ have printable wedding checklists that you can use. After all, if your mother-in-law wants to be included, you may as well put her to good use!
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